Massage is a great intimacy builder. Both the giver and the receiver release oxytocin, (the bonding hormone,) into their blood steam. It can be sexually stimulating or relaxing. It is always sensual for me either way. You will probably see me mention it frequently, because I think it is… in one word… powerful. I have wanted to learn how to massage the right way. I spent my afternoon today watching massage videos I down loaded from the Internet. I was impressed for the price of $31.00 (including the tax.) I ordered the DVD with the Internet access. So now it is on my PC, but I will be getting the DVD in the mail.
The only down part was the music. It is the relaxing kind great for massage, but I almost fell asleep watching. No kidding. I do not think I could make it through a whole routine at one time with that kind of music, even if I was the one giving the massage. Though I could never fall asleep while giving the glute routine to him. He has such an awesome gluteus maxi-mus. 
The videos are short, they do just one leg etc… However, the over all routine will be long. There are also pages to print things out, which I will refer to if I forget where I am. I cannot wait to try this out.
I will have to let you know how he likes it. I am not sure we will get a chance this weekend. If not, we have our anniversary trip next weekend.
Let me see how it goes. See if he likes it. If this turns out well, then I will add a link at the bottom of this post. (I am not selling anything and have no affiliation.)
In the meantime, set the music and lighting and warm some oil. Get your lover naked, (we shower together first.) Rub and knead away, then rub some more. Be careful not to apply pressure on the spine, the base of the throat, under the kneecaps and other fragile areas. Don’t forget to massage the head and feet… or blow out the candles.
I remember reading from a book by Bernie Zilbergeld, “The New Male Sexuality,” that nurses used to give backrubs to patients who couldn’t move themselves very well. Apparently it used to make hospital stays much more bearable, but that was in the time before touch (even casual touching) was considered too sexual.
Hope the massage works for you. It’s never worked for me.
I think that nurses are nurturing-essence people. To nurture complete strangers the way they do is such an awesome gift.
It is a shame that everything has become hands-off where hands-on is beneficial. Yet, this is in an age where sensuality is used in everything from children’s toys to politics.
TCF, I am sorry massage has not worked for you.
I has, and does add to our relationship. It makes a nice treat for date night when we can not get a sitter or afford to go out. With the economy tightening up, it looks like I will be getting plenty of chances to practice.
In the distant past, there have been a few times when communication was broken down, and massage was the ice breaker.
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