There are a few changes this week.
It is getting harder to postpone bosoming. It is starting to go past “uncomfortable” to “VERY uncomfortable.” I have a high pain threshold, so I won’t say “painful” yet.
Our schedule is the same.
- Morning, 6am weekdays and 7AM-sh weekends
- Lunch time, somewhere between 12:30 and 1:30
- After work, anywhere from 5:30 to 6:30
- Bed time, 10:00 or later
We gave up the 2am after my milk was established. He was tired all day when he wasn’t sleeping through the night, every night. Now that my milk is established, sleeping through the night is usually not a problem. Once in a while it is, and I wake him up. He is a good sport if I do. It happens rarely, so it is not a big deal.
This morning my breasts woke me up at 5:15. There was no going back to sleep for me. He was sleeping so hard, that I couldn’t bare to wake him. I knew the alarm would be going off soon, so I waited it out.
I had drank lots of water yesterday morning, so by lunch time my breast were extremely uncomfortable…OK, they hurt. LOL. We were not even late. I think it was the water I drank. Water makes a big difference for me. I try to drink a glass after every time we bosom. Yesterday morning I was thirsty and kept refilling my glass that I keep by at my desk.
I think he actually got tired of trying to keep up with the milk flow. He had to unlatch and take a deep breath. It accrued to me that it is possible to one day have too much milk. I can hear some of you guys saying out there saying, “No way! Well, I would of thought that was unlikely too. Thing is I don’t have what I would consider a lot of milk. It is nothing compared to when I had babies.
Until we are both retired and have nothing more pressing to do than spend hours a day snuggled together, too much milk can become a problem.
We have done good to carve a couple twenty to thirty minute niches out of our day. Lunch time is often leisurely. Other times though, he has to get back to the office to hit a dead line. After work we have evening activities to prepare for; ball practice, volunteer work, or company coming. If we bosom long in the morning, it makes it too easy to fall back to sleep. If we are tired at bed time falling asleep is again a possibility. Twenty to thirty minutes is ideal for THIS couple, who still works and has school aged children at home.
It is a good thing this is a supply and demand issue, right? Well not exactly. Which is why he would help me out when I had babies. (OK, I am now sure it was more than compassion on his part.) There are days when the milk seems to have a mind of it’s own; like after I drink tons of water. (smile.)
My mate has got this down to an art. He always makes it enjoyable. First he just enjoys the let down and the milk flowing on its own. Before we are through he has kneaded each breast making sure no milk is stubbornly hiding. After all the milk is gone he relaxes a little and keeps suckling a bit, or it has becomes foreplay and… Well, then no one is watching the time or falling asleep. (smile)
Oh for the days when we can just lounge around and not look at the clock… Those days are sure to come too fast. The days we presently live in are really bliss enough. I enjoy my children and the activity around me. I like “sneaking off” and hiding away in our room in the middle of a rush of activity. We come out of our room laughing and run down the stairs ready to get on with our plans.
Wow, it has been four months; a third of a year. Spring is peeking around the corner. Yesterday after school, my daughter put her bathing suit on and tried to catch some sun on the deck. The birds are back. Peepers are in the creek. and the daffodils are up.
I am looking forward to bosoming through the seasons. We have a lovely private balcony off the master bedroom that I plan to put to good use. Family fishing is going to be a trick. We are gone before sun up and home at dark. Oh boy! Any ideas?
A beautiful thing, isn’t it? So many married couples need to be reminded about reconnecting; you do so with your husband so willingly, so deeply, and so frequently.
Make sure your fishing trip is somewhere without any (unintentional) voyeurs. The last thing Bosom Love needs now is prejudice brought on by invasion of privacy.
I’m eagerly looking forward to your follow-up post to “Hugs.”
What happens if one day he is too busy to take the time for bosoming? What happens if his deadlines become more important and he is impatient? I hope it never happens but if it does, then what?
I think I understand your question, and it is a good question… Let me know if I got it wrong and this does not answer it.
I can hand express if I have too. I can express just enough to keep me comfortable and hold me over. If I need to, I can express it all; it would take some time though.
This is what I did when I had babies, and I was away from them. I am not into pumps… but if it came down to him being away for days… I would get a cheap one for temporary use. I nursed babies for most of 14 years and never needed a pump. In those days I hand expressed into sinks and lavs, in the car using a go cup or paper towels, or the easiest for me.. in the shower. If I had to save it for the baby, I expressed right into a bottle.
I just rather hold off if I can, so we can have this special time together.
I mentioned the fullness and the feeling in my journal, because this is a “stage” in lactation that I am reaching. (I did not mean for it to sound like a problem.)
I am actually welcoming this stage, because it means my lactation is even more established, and because it does give us even more reason to be creative in finding secluded spots and make creative excuses to get away from everyone for a few minutes. “Honey, I have got to talk to you about something in private.” “Sis, can I use your room for a minute?” and “Let’s find a place to pull over.” etc. Just a few minutes on each side can hold us over for a couple hours. He is a time efficient bosom mate when he needs to be. These times of creativity, sneakiness and speed add some excitement and a change of pace.
Now, if you mean, what if his attitude changes and he starts changing his priorities and missing becomes a matter of convenience… Then he knows this is supply and demand… Too many times of holding off or expressing just enough to get buy for a while will mean a drop in milk, and more work to get it back up there. No pump means, I am not going to do this work alone. He understands that. He has seen the results a couple times when it was necessary. I am fortunate enough that he enjoys the milk. It means more to him than to me. If this attitude changes… then there is less milk. I can live with that.
I did a lot of thinking and heart searching before we even started this, and more since then. As much as I enjoy frequent bosom times, I could live with morning and night only, if it came to that. These two, to me are the most special. So I am glad they are the easiest to keep.
On the other hand, I think he enjoys the two mid day bosom times the most. I have yet to really share how those go with you all. When I do, it will most likely be in story form and sent to LMH… because that is usually when bosom time is the “hottest.” We are both more awake and, well, lunch time nooners have always been his favorite and his specialty. After work, he is ready to let loose and unwind… in that order. I have suggested a few times that we could slip by the after work bosoming, because the hours are closer together, and we had to be somewhere. He has never took me up on it.
(BTW: Don’t look for the story any time soon. I will write it when I am stuck somewhere waiting, and have with my laptop with me.)
I would not be honest if I didn’t tell you that in the back of my mind, I have always worried… “What if he gets tired of this?” I have heard that one of two things happen: People get bored or get hooked. Isn’t it that way with everything we enjoy daily? It either becomes a rut we start to resent, or something we enjoy so much we look forward to it, and we really miss it to the point of feeling our day is messed up if we go without it. It has been four months and I think it has become a part of “us” as a couple. I hope I am right.
Yes, that answered my question really well. Thanks!
I have an admiration for your ability as a couple to keep your priorities so straight.