I was reading in one of my yahoo groups this morning, and a spouse said she wanted to please her husband, but she could not understand his need to suckle. She was asking for others to explain it. (How precious that she seeks to understand!)
I thought if I can get you, my readers, to participate in sharing your explanation, I would devote a page, (or pages,) to your responses.
I have heard so many sad stories where a bosom lover has a spouse who will not meet his or her need or desire. Some of these spouses have given Internet links to their non-understanding mate in hopes to show them that their desire is not so unusual and that there is something in bosoming beneficial to the relationship.
There is a lot off good information out there on reasons, needs, desires, and benefits, but it is mixed in with the “how to”s. It would be nice to have a place to send a spouse to find these answers, without them having to dig through everything else.
Male or female, suckler or suckled, would you have the compassion to write, or copy something YOU have written elsewhere, a description of your need, or what bosoming does for you or your relationship, and send it to me by way of my contact page, (for anonymous contact,) or by email? If you wish you can just leave it here in the comment section of this post, and I will copy it over to the page.
Please put yourself in the shoes of the people in a committed relationship who are trying to explain this to a spouse, and see the need to help. If you are worried about spelling and typos, I will correct those kind of formatting mistakes the best I can. I make plenty of them myself… please don’t let formatting and grammar stop you. Just speak from the heart. Attach a pen name if you do not want to use your own. Please send me only things you have written yourself.
When, and if, I get responses to this request, I will share them in a post, then add them to the reserved page.
Thank you in advance for your show of support and compassion.
HM
I think nursing is a need for me because I never was nursed as an infant, I nearly starved to death, so I never got to feel the security and safety and love that the bond of nursing creates. I am unable to have children, which seemed to double the loss in a way, and although caring for my disabled husband fills the time, worry and love, there was still the emptiness where that bond should be. Now that we are nursing it has become more. It’s a way for my husband to say “I love you” without the words he’s so bad with. It’s a way for me to give my husband a gift, both of nutrition and love, several times a day with no expense but time. At first it was a need, now it is an overwhelming joy. It is a bright spot three times a day or more, no matter how gloomy the day. It’s a blessing.
May I just say,
I guarantee that the man who created his wife’s large full breasts with his patient loving months of suckling kissing and caressing her breasts so that they will make milk is going to be a much happier man in his heart and soul than the guy who just went out and bought his wife a pair of large full (but alas fake) breasts….my husband thought he wanted me to get breast augmentation…I’m so glad he brought it up…I think we have stumbled upon a better way…a way that will forever make a mark on our souls and deepen our connection in a way that few will ever know, and I believe that Bosoming may well cause us to live longer happier healthier and more connected meaningful and fulfilled lives…I’m so glad he wanted real breasts after all….I’d have hated to dissapoint him by refusing to have my breast changed in anyway other than what we are doing…this should be the newest coolest thing if you ask me…breast augmentations would fly out the window so fast if everyone knew…alot of people think you have to have a baby to get milk…I know I did until fairly recently myself…my husband loves my breasts and I love him loving my breasts…God, I am a happy woman.
that will forever make a mark on our souls and deepen our connection in a way that few will ever know, and I believe that Bosoming may well cause us to live longer happier healthier and more connected meaningful and fulfilled lives
That is so beautifully put! That reason alone is enough for those of us who have experienced it and let it become a part of who we are as a person and as a couple.
Inducing and keeping milk, if you enjoy the process in and of itself, along with the intimacy it builds, is marvelous. The small breast size increase is icing on the cake.
I don’t want to discourage you from inducing. I also don’t want you to put your hopes too high on the size increase. You will probably see one cup size change at most. Remember, most nursing moms have put on weight during their pregnancy. Part of the size increase they experience is fat and water from the pregnancy. Yet another part is from nursing every few hours, which is much more than most couple manage.
Still, a small live flower that blooms again and again, is better than a larger plastic one.
i want to breastfeed my husband (dry or wet) there’s little fluid coming from my left breast but it is very bitter. does anyone have any recomendation?
Sarah,
Have you trying to induce yet? If you have fluid and you were not stimulating the breast you should see your doctor.
I just asked my husband; Sometimes the fluid is sweeter than other times, but bitter does not sound familiar, especially not “very bitter.” Did you eat something bitter? Is it always bitter?
Thank you for responding.
I am very new to this anr concept. After I came across this website, I read so many wonderful stories, I got very interested in anr. My husband does not know about it. He is not a breast person. Only during sex he will suckle my breast. Sometime in the middle of the night without waking him up I will put my breast in his mouth but he does not suckle. I would love to put him to sleep while he is one my breast. I don’t religiously stimulate my breast. Only few drops comes and it’s bitter all the time. May be one day he will come around and understand this concept.
We stumbled upon our ANR by accident…he was suckling me, which BTW I have always loved as it arouses me “down south”…Guys, you want to get your gal in the mood then just suckle her breasts! Sex 101. Nuff said. Things were really gettin’ going when my love said, “I wish I could drink your milk”. Milk? I thought! There is no milk, but I know I can make some. Having been a La Leche League leader years before when I was nursing my babes, I taught those who were about to adopt how to bring their milk in for their new arrival. When I told him that it was a real possibility we made it a priority to bring my milk in. We started immediately. My detailed story is listed on this site, but to answer the question as to why I need it or why I love it???
I feel a closeness with my husband when we bosom that I fear can’t be explained properly in words. I feel as though we are the only two people in existence, intertwined as one. I nurture and am nurtured at the same time. Am pleasing and am pleased and feel a contentment that just can’t be explained…a feeling that I truly love. Hormones are being released that CAN NOT be released in any other way or fashion but via nursing/bosoming. It truly is a unique experience and a gift that only my man can give me. For those of you that have or make the time to bosom, you are truly blessed…wet or dry. It is a rare gift for both the giver and the recipient. I am blessed to have a man that desires to please me and that I long always to please. If you desire an ANR from your mate, take the time to explain why you need it and how it makes you feel…and how it makes you feel about him/her. Only good can come from it. Don’t be afraid to be honest. Share this site with them so that they can read how others feel and what they have experienced. You might be surprised by their response!!
Blessings to all and may you have a wonderful new year spending time learning to love your mate in new and glorious ways!
Luvmyhub