Hi Hismilkmaid,
Congratulations on your blog. I found it a very interesting and nice place which I enjoy visiting. I especially found inspiring the way you show the concept of ANR as a tender bond of love between two bodies and souls. I wish all the best for you, your husband, and your family.
I have happily married for 22 years. We have four children.
I would like to ask you a question: How can I get my wife interested in ANR? I think it has to be wonderful when it’s already working, but… How can I introduce the idea to her? For what I have read in your blog, it takes a lot of time and effort to induce lactation. My dear wife and me work outside home and we have 4 kids to look after. That takes most of our energy… Most days, we fall into bed so exhausted, that we only want to sleep. I think she will see an ANR like extra work…
Okay, I do not expect any miracle answer from you, but maybe another point of view could help.
Thanks again for your blog and also for your kind attention. With best regards,
Curtis (details changed to protect identity)
Updated with my reply:
Hello,
Introducing ANR to a lady who is already tired is a tough one. I think that tiredness is why when I bosomed my husband while I was nursing my babies… I just didn’t feel the same as I do now. I did it to make him happy, but I had no personal desire in it beyond that.
I would suggest that you just introduce some short quick suckling spurts in your foreplay and see if she likes how it feels. If she doesn’t mind, you can slowly initiate longer times. I personally wouldn’t bring up the subject of ANR for a while. Just introduce the sensations of erotic or relaxing suckling. Maybe after a while tell her you read… you ARE reading it here, lol…that after 20 to 30 minutes of strong adult suckling, (so much different than a little baby,) many women get not only aroused, but also blissful, and most importantly, that it creates an emotional connection between the lovers. Ask her if she is willing to try that. If she is, then when you are through, tell her how much YOU enjoyed it. Tell her how close to her you feel. Keep in mind the relationship value of ANR, and leave out the milk idea at first.
(CAUTION: Actually, the milk is such a tiny bonus for the husband, compared to how the emotional “connection” increases her desire for physical intimacy with her spouse. It has also been my experience, and many other women have told me, that suckling makes her orgasms easier and they are intense if suckling is followed or accompanied by stimulation below. Between the emotional connection and the easier and better orgasms… some men end up with nymphos for wives.)
I suggest you start out slow and see how it goes. Since her time and energy is at such a great demand, short sessions will be easier to keep up with and less tiring. When the day comes for you to bring up the desire for a consistent suckling relationship, I suggest that you reaffirm her that you are not asking her to mother you and treat you like a baby. Some women worry that their husbands are requesting them to take on a mothering role, and they are put off by that. Each milkmaid has her own feelings to discover in the relationship. Adding to this, I think you should not ask for a commitment, but instead ask that she “try” it for two months, perhaps starting with bedtime, then if that goes well, adding mornings, and eventually for relaxing and connecting a few minutes after work, and a little more on weekends.
Some ladies find the idea of actually lactating for their husband strange or burdensome. Yet, I have read a few stories where the spouse ended up bring in the idea of milk themselves.
I hope sharing these thoughts helped. I may have a post started, lol.
I am asking for your permission to use your letter. May I? Many men have asked me this question, but you have wrote it out with so much consideration for your wife, that it has blessed me.
Loving it,
His Milkmaid
(edited and additional points added.)
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Probably best to take it slow and let an ANR be her idea, not yours.
Well, it’s not as grand as I thought it would be (I was thinking you’d open up a whole new section dedicating on “convincing” partners of either gender to become partners in ANRs), you finished it, and you deserve credit for that.
Thank you… but I know it is not finished. I wish I had all the answers. I had made an offer to post ideas if people sent them in. I never had to convince a partner myself. It would be nice to here from someone with first hand experience.
HisMilkMaid nailed it right on! Hers is the best advice that I’ve heard from anyone. She advises to focus more on the relationship aspect as well as how it makes him feel…so much closer to her…a bonding experience…in tune with one another. Remember how your woman thinks and what she needs physically, mentally and emotionally.
I also like the timetable the author recommends. Nights first which will relax her. Let her fall asleep with you at her breast. Massage her back and buttocks while you do this and make it clear that you are NOT trying to get anything off of her. No expectations. Just slumber together in total bliss.
She needs to trust you that there isn’t an ulterior motive to all this…sex. She’ll respond to you this way when she is ready.
I agree, after several night sessions, then add the mornings and tell her how much you love this new found “closeness” you two have found and that you can’t imagine how you lived without it. Ask her how it makes her feel. How and when does she like it best. She should be pretty open to discuss it by this time and my guess is that she will love it and you for putting her first in your words and deeds.
Our ANR has brought my husband and I so much closer that we have not had a “serious” argument since we started all this. Being close like this has focused our attitudes and attention on each other and not on selfish, petty little squabbles. We talk more about EVERYTHING…like when we first met. Best to you and your adventures with your loving wife.
Well, thanks, Luvmyhub, for sharing your point of view and your wishes. I had already thanked Hismilkmaid, (and thank hereby again) and your intervention is just as appreciated. Best wishes to you and your family.