You asked, “How did I become a milkmaid”?
The answer is quite simple. One day while my husband and I were…Uh hum…involved in some very private time, he began to suckle my breasts. Let’s just say that the above described activity “gets me in the mood” very quickly. This time in particular, Hubby lingered there a little longer than usual. He seemed to be in a very dreamy state…we both just soaked up the moment while I cradled his head in my arms; he nearly dozed off suckling. He loving looked up at me and whispered, “I wish that I could drink your milk”. I excitedly asked, “Are you serious”? Hubby replied, “Of course, silly; why not”? For the next several minutes I explained that his idea could become our reality. Having been a LLL leader (eons ago), I assisted many new moms including one woman who would eventually adopt and desired to breastfeed. Certainly this was something that we could do.
My DH was anxious to start right away…our ANR was born. Mind you, neither one of us had ever heard of an ANR or ABF. We simply discovered this new form of intimacy and bonding all on our own. It just happened naturally. We both had a good idea of how often we would need to BF in order to bring milk in and we were committed. Owning our own business allowed us to make time to prioritize our new found joy if you know what I mean! At that time, we nursed every 4 or 5 hours around the clock. At two weeks, we had serious drops and within the 4th week Hubby was getting gulps. Needless to say, we were ecstatic!
By 8 weeks, we had dropped the “wee hour of the morning” feeding…I guess we both finally ran out of gas. Three to four sessions became the norm for a week or so. What happened next is a cautionary tale…so learn from it. I became obsessed with keeping the schedule fearing that my milk would dry up; the schedule became the focus rather than the relationship. Our ANR was taking up a lot of our time and our business needed attention. For about 5 or 6 days there was no nursing. My husband and I were stressed out, confused and unsure of the next step. Neither Hubby or I had any intention of giving up our ANR, but we had to re-group…find some balance in all of this.
Communication is key!
I learned a lot from my husband those days that we didn’t nurse. We worked hard together and had some very meaningful talks; he is my BEST FRIEND. You know, we all have expectations in our marriages regarding sex, nursing…fill in the blank. The micromanagement of an ANR (or anything for that matter) can leave couples disillusioned and/or disappointed. Talking about our desires, expectations and the reality of our daily life helped me to put things in proper perspective.
So, how does this story end? Oh, we are just getting started! You’ll have to wait and read my next post! Gottcha! I would never be that cruel. LOL.
Bosom Love has never been better. We have freed ourselves from a strict “schedule” letting things happen naturally. Whether wet or dry nursing, we love the intimacy and closeness that it provides. It has truly become a part of us… a very special part of a glorious relationship that I have with my beloved husband.
I pray our story has encouraged you. If opinions differ between you and your mate regarding ANR talk with them. You don’t have to limit yourselves or tailor your ANR after someone else. There really is no right or wrong way! Share your desires and then listen to them…really listen and be willing to compromise. Bosom love is an incredible blessing and journey…one I hope all of our readers may one day enjoy!
Blessings to all,
Luvmyhub
Glad to see you back to writing. I hope health and all at home is well. It’s snowing here and I’m liking it…..just the 1st storm though. Wish I could walk with a friend in the snow tonight.
Thank you. I am glad to be here, but I think there might be some confusion. The post you responded to, “Becoming a Milkmaid” was written by Luvmyhub a new author here at Woman-essence, Hismilkmaid’s blog. Just wanted to clarify.
Thank you very much taking the time and trouble to contribute your first real post to this blog. I would love to hear about, and learn from, more of your life experiences.
Signed,
TrashCanFoundling
Thank you for sharing your story. However, for me and my wife it started the other way around, she offered her milk to me! I suppose I wanted to try for some time and was worried she would someone find it a bad idea. Instead it has turned into a wonderful experience.
More recently I’ve “Grown Up” and it’s become more of an emotional attachment than a sexual one. Now my days are started off right as I join with my wife in this wonderful act and at the end of the day we conjoin again and wash all the stress of the day away.
We have always had what I would describe as an open dialog about our intimate relations, but it seems for every year we are married we find something new to explore and enjoy together.
Thanks again!
Thanks for dropping by and sharing your story. It’s good to hear a man’s perspective. Blessings to you and your bride as you savor everything an ANR brings to your relationship.
Thanks for sharing your story, you are a great writer and it was a joy to read and experience your journey with you. Please continue to update us on your journey…it is encouraging to those of us who are “starting out”!
Welcome Rosebud,
Everyone is different and their story as well. My hope is to encourage those who desire to love their mates in this unique and special way. Our ANR schedule changes as need be (illness and a minor surgery got in the way); however, the love that binds us together is stronger than ever! Our bosom time continues to be a very precious part of our lives.
We look forward to hearing more from you too!
Blessings,
Luvmyhub
Wow! Only 2 weeks to start getting drops? Every 5 hours would be 5 times per day. So in 2 weeks at 5 times per day you were already lactating? That’s so great. Was this re-lactating for you, or first time? My fiance just started ABF yesterday. I hope I’m as lucky as you and it only takes 2 weeks! Any advice to speed things up will be appreciated.
Dear Beginner,
I had been pregnant and delivered three children many years ago. The youngest is 19 yrs. old, so needless to say, it has been a long time since the breasts were making milk. It is easier to lactate or induce when one has been through labor and delivery at some time; many women have induced anticipating the arrival of an adopted child, never having been pregnant before. It is a supply/demand relationship. The more one demands, the more you will supply. You will start to feel changes in your breasts as they prepare to make milk. At times you may even feel like there is milk flowing from your breasts when there is none. Your loved one will assure you when this happens as it is a pretty exciting day when it does. Be patient and enjoy the journey…it happens at different times for different couples.
Blessings to you and your fiancee as you embark of a new and wonderful chapter of your lives.
Luvmyhub