As we approach the beginning of the year 2010, what new plans and/or changes do you have for your life?
I can’t help but think about the things that I want to improve on. Being a pack-rat is probably the biggest albatross that I have carried around all of my life; one that I would love to be released from. Never wanting to “waste” anything and thinking, “Oh, that may come in handy one day” line of thinking has culminated in nothing but a bunch of junk stored in boxes over the years.
And that “vortex of sequences”!…before I can put the dishes in the dishwasher the dishes have to be rinsed off…before I rinse off the dishes, I have to unload the dishwasher… before I can unload the dishwasher, I have to reorganize the shelf space where the dishes will be stored. The phone rings and I’m thrown off track held captive in a conversation that lasts too long. Or while involved in one task I become bored (I guess) and think, “I’m gonna just run and throw that load of laundry in the washer” and fail to complete the task that was previously started…so easily distracted am I…sigh. Surely I have ADD.
And paperwork…the stacks I need to organize? We won’t even go there!
I am my own worst enemy; I love deadline stress. I think that I purposely wait till the last minute to do something because I like the adrenaline rush of running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off. At age 50, do I not realize how long it takes to get ready to go somewhere? Surely not! Having unrealistic ideas about how much I can accomplish within a certain amount of time often causes me to be late or nearly late to everything. Can ANYONE relate to what I am talking about?
All of these things simply add to the stress in my life. And guess who is responsible for it all? No one else but me. Although I do not run my life this way 24/7, it does occur more often than I would like. I have much discipline in many areas of my life and in others it feels like utter chaos.
My husband and I have a unique situation; we are living in a home that we are totally remodeling. We live in a VERY small living space. It is really kind of fun…like camping but with some special challenges. We have also received additional items given to us by family and are running out of storage. It is time to do some serious purging.
Refusing to make “New Year’s Resolutions” I will vow to make some healthy changes in my life…I will update you in February or March as to how things are coming along. Will you join me in this adventure? It will be fun! Right? A few changes that I would like to make are as follows:
1) I will go to bed and arise earlier, making a list the night before I retire of the most important things that need to be done the following day.
2) I will handle a piece of paper/mail a maximum of 2 times…once just isn’t realistic. It will promptly be placed in the trash, filed appropriately or paid.
3) Although I had started to go through things in our storage building last month (it got cold), I will press on toward the goal to go through those boxes and take stuff to our local charitable organization, the library or the dump within the next month. The kids will be around and can help me!
4) The remaining necessities of life will be organized in such a way that they are easily accessed in order to be most useful.
I am at such peace and rest when my husband is at my breast. There is nothing like it. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t care if the house looks perfect or not; there are other things that are more important and take priority. As a woman though, I take pride is making our home a comfortable and peaceful place to live. This is part of what I do and who I am.
Maybe you are at the same point in your life…tired of the status quo… whatever that may mean to you. What improvements and/or changes have you made that might be helpful to others? We at Woman-essence look forward to reading your goals and improvements that you would like to make for the coming year.
Blessing to you and yours for the coming New Year!
Luvmyhub
P.S. Only four (4) life changes are listed. Honestly, I don’t think that I can handle any more than that at one time. LOL. However, these are all major changes that will greatly simplify my life.
Honey, I just wanted to tell you how much I love you, and how proud I am of you. Your ability to express yourself with pen and paper (well . . .) is exceeded only by your ability to articulate yourself verbally. I especially love it when you “coo” whenever we are, um, bonding.
I guess I should register here so I can have an actual username. I won’t be able to drop in often, but when I do I suppose I should have a permanent name . . . help me think of one!
I better get back to work because sitting here at this laptop and not moving is making me c-c-cold (it’s 30 something in this shop!), got that 3:45 deadline looming. What were you saying about deadlines? See you in a few hours. Got milk?
(we need to come up with a bf smilie)
“I…am, I…am, I…am the luckiest”.
Hi!
I am so proud of you to make realistic and specific goals.
Best of wishes to you and hubby!
May the milk flow freely and plentiful!
Daniel
Welcome to the blog Daniel and thank you for your kind remarks. We do love it when the milk is flowing!!!
In times past, I have been guilty of listing too many unrealistic expectations of myself…only to be disappointed later. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I am a dreamer and a hopeless romantic which I have never regretted; I always think the best of everyone unless they give me reason not too and then I still believe in second chances…and third, fourth (you get the picture). However, this personality tends to have “too many irons in the fire”; multiple projects going on at the same time rarely completing them. For example, I have two (2) quilts that I started years ago and neither of them have been completed.
A HUGE motivation for getting organized is so that I can dig out some of those projects (one at a time) and work on them to completion. One of those quilts, a log cabin, was cut out 10 years ago; I want to place on our bed one day.
My dad often said, “the joy is in the journey”! Have I not completed projects because I want the journey to continue or do I become bored with it and abandon it? When projects are not completed they can’t be evaluated…no chance of failure…right? But failing to complete a task and completing it well leaves me feeling (I pause as I watch the cursor blink) like a failure. Maybe I should have become a shrink. LOL.
Here’s to completing tasks in the coming New Year!
I know the feeling of “addicted to deadline stress,” or at least my version of it. I also know someone very close to me who thrives on being busy as much as possible, even if the stress is getting to her.
Are you going to update this blog more often? I would like to see this updated every week or every other week. Maybe you and HisMilkMaid could take turns updating it every week, so each of you only update the blog every other week.
I would love to learn more about you and your experiences through this blog.
Signed,
TrashCanFoundling
Oh yes, the “Busyness Disease”. Over the years, I have observed many families involve themselves in way too many activities in the name of providing their children with a better life. I struggled with it myself at times while homeschooling. Children become accustomed to being on the go…expecting to go somewhere every day. I love being home…my nest, all safe and warm. My kids enjoy coming home and relaxing; taking a break from the world and all its demands.
As to your question TrashCanFoundling, yes I do believe that we will be updating the blog on a more frequent basis. Both of our families have been “busy” as of late, but things are getting back to their normal routine. Family business must take a front seat since we do kind of like to eat, but the blog is important to both of us. I generally check for comments, clear out spam, etc. twice daily. Taking turns posting updates is a great idea giving our readers a little different perspective. We welcome ideas and questions from our readers as well as hearing about their own experiences.
It is really interesting to me to hear about how other couples discovered their ANR. It is like hearing a love story. The moments that my DH nuzzles at my breasts are never enough…I can never get enough…always wanting more; always looking forward to the next time that we will come together. Our times together are precious to both of us.
My hope is that this blog is becoming a vehicle to educate, eliminate fears and bring couples closer together through the bond of bosoming. My heart truly aches for those where one longs to suck or be suckled and their mate refuses. That idea is foreign to me.
Many probably don’t even know about the whole idea. I know that Hubby and I didn’t before last year…and we considered ourselves pretty knowledgeable about intimacy. I guess it goes to show you that we can always learn more about our mates…ways to please them and be pleased! We are very glad that we did!
Belonging to Him,
Luvmyhub
I think you should also make an entry on how you became “His.” HMM has made herself clear on that subject, but I’m sure your own story will be fascinating. I’m driven to wonder if your life would have been better if you married your high school sweetheart first. I take it that you don’t get as many odd looks about your family’s situation as HMM purportedly does, though.
Sadly, the idea of denying something to one’s spouse to exact a concession, to “punish,” or “just because I’m not interested and s/he shouldn’t be either,” is all too familiar to many couples. As I said before, no one is charged with teaching people how much work intimate relationships are or how to properly maintain them. Sometimes I wonder what it would take for people to take their relationships more seriously in general.
“Pretty knowledgeable,” huh . . . I would think that it’s common knowledge now that people (in general, anyhow) can get turned on by anything. Anything. I only wish that bosoming wasn’t considered so gauche and “perverted,” though.
Signed,
TrashCanFoundling
Even early in our relationship, I think my wife really understood that this is what it takes when I’m really stressed to relieve that stress. I’m thankful for that.