A Clock Free Day

Weekends are wonderful. As much as I enjoy the the  rhythm of the Monday through Friday schedules, I always look forward to the rare weekends when there is no need to watch the clock. We got out of bed when we were ready too, not when we “had too.” We ate when we got hungry, not on a clock. We rushed or hurried, only because it felt good, and we started and stopped whatever we were doing because, well just because. No reason needed.

With a family as large as mine, rarely is there a day that is flexible and not dependent on the clock. Today though, was one of those days. We took advantage of today’s freedom to live by impulse. We got in the extra snuggling times and they lasted longer than we are usually allowed.

Is this what it will be like when we are retired? I wonder if then, we will miss the hustle and bustle of a large family and businesses to run like clock work.  I have to admit the challenge of stealing away some time, and splurging those moments on “quickies” lends to some excitement. Spontaneous bursts of pent up passion snuck into impossible schedules…

Well for now, that is the norm. So it is nice to get a day like today… a day where every longing, every ache, gets answered.

His Milkmaid

I raised my garden a few weeks ago and planted cool weather plants; started seeds inside to be trans-planted later. Everything just seems so fresh and new. I feel younger somehow during this time of year. My arthritis doesn’t act up as much and I don’t feel as stiff when I wake up simply because I am more active when the weather is warmer…kind of like a reptile…LOL!

And is there anything better than bosoming and making love with the windows open and a slight breeze blowing through the room. Just me and my hubby…the only two people in the world (or so it seems) loving, pleasuring and nurturing  one another in ways that only we can. My husband is the ONLY man that has ever truly loved me; aside of my own father…but I’m talking about Romantic Love. Dad used to say that true love is a verb, an action word…it has feet. Love is demonstrated through actions. My DH knows me so well, sometimes better than I know myself. He understands my needs and provides a back or foot rub whenever I need it MOST…he demonstrates his love in so many ways I find myself on a mission to love and care for him in every way possible. Truly I think we sometimes try to “outlove” one another…not out of competition, but out of a true desire to love one another to the fullest extent.

We are not promised tomorrow; I want to use each and every day as an opportunity to love my husband better, longer, and deeper…who knows when a simple kiss goodbye may be our last. My father passed away 6 yrs. ago…it still hurts, especially when I see my mother’s loneliness. Dad truly loved my mom.
Cling not to worldly possessions but to those people that you love; they are the only things that truly last.

May you have a blessed spring day as you ponder the ones you love and demonstrate your love for them.

Lovingly,
Luvmyhub

Many of us, I imagine, tend to post less on these sights when the nursing has decreased significantly or even ceased for a time. Like all things in life, even our ANR will ebb and flow. Illnesses, surgeries and the birth of a child bring change and often pain that disallow us to participate in the very things that bring us closer to our mate.

This has been our experience as well as others. Having to abstain from nursing while ill or in pain can be very frustrating but is normal. Be gentle with yourself and your loved one. When you are emotionally upset or are frustrated with the situation at hand, just remember that your circumstances WILL change. It is hard to remember that when we are in the “thick of it all”. But this too shall pass and things will be back to normal.

If you are the healthier mate at the time, do things that make your loved one feel valued and loved. Snuggling close together while watching a movie or just leaving them alone to get some much needed rest may be in order. Just ask them what they need. Sometimes when we are sick we aren’t even sure of what we need. Offering to draw a hot bath or make some soup may help…comfort measures  as needed.

I recently have had a stomach virus that lasted about a week just prior to a minor surgical procedure. For two weeks my hubby had to take over all of the duties feeding us, doing the laundry all while working our home business alone. Now we both have terrible colds and we feel like crud! My DH never complained once while I cried having my own little pity party. That was the day the pain was at its worst. I took my Darvocet and all was right with the world again. These peri-menopausal years don’t help either. God help my husband; at times I feel like I’ve been invaded by the “body snatchers”. Hubby is most definitely my hero…he takes such great care of me. He is “The Man”! I thank God for him every day as he is the glue that holds everything together…the go-to guy.

Everyone experiences physical and emotional challenges from time to time. Stress affects even the very best marriages.  Please feel free to share your story with us at Woman-essence; it may be the very thing that someone needs to hear right now.

Blessings to all as you snuggle, nuzzle, and bosom your loved one!

I am and will always,

Luvmyhub

I can’t help but think about the things that I want to improve on. Being a pack-rat is probably the biggest albatross that I have carried around all of my life; one that I would love to be released from. Never wanting to “waste” anything and thinking, “Oh, that may come in handy one day” line of thinking has culminated in nothing but a bunch of junk stored in boxes over the years.

And that “vortex of sequences”!…before I can put the dishes in the dishwasher the dishes have to be rinsed off…before I rinse off the dishes, I have to unload the dishwasher… before I can unload the dishwasher, I have to reorganize the shelf space where the dishes will be stored. The phone rings and I’m thrown off track held captive in a conversation that lasts too long. Or while involved in one task I become bored (I guess) and think, “I’m gonna just run and throw that load of laundry in the washer” and fail to complete the task that was previously started…so easily distracted am I…sigh. Surely I have ADD.
And paperwork…the stacks I need to organize? We won’t even go there!

I am my own worst enemy; I love deadline stress. I think that I purposely wait till the last minute to do something because I like the adrenaline rush of running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off. At age 50, do I not realize how long it takes to get ready to go somewhere? Surely not! Having unrealistic ideas about how much I can accomplish within a certain amount of time often causes me to be late or nearly late to everything. Can ANYONE relate to what I am talking about?

All of these things simply add to the stress in my life. And guess who is responsible for it all? No one else but me. Although I do not run my life this way 24/7, it does occur more often than I would like. I have much discipline in many areas of my life and in others it feels like utter chaos.

My husband and I have a unique situation; we are living in a home that we are totally remodeling. We live in a VERY small living space. It is really kind of fun…like camping but with some special challenges. We have also received additional items given to us by family and are running out of storage. It is time to do some serious purging.

Refusing to make “New Year’s Resolutions” I will vow to make some healthy changes in my life…I will update you in February or March as to how things are coming along. Will you join me in this adventure? It will be fun! Right? A few changes that I would like to make are as follows:

1) I will go to bed and arise earlier, making a list the night before I retire of the most important things that need to be done the following day.

2) I will handle a piece of paper/mail a maximum of 2 times…once just isn’t realistic. It will promptly be placed in the trash, filed appropriately or paid.

3) Although I had started to go through things in our storage building last month (it got cold), I will press on toward the goal to go through those boxes and take stuff to our local charitable organization, the library or the dump within the next month. The kids will be around and can help me!

4) The remaining necessities of life will be organized in such a way that they are easily accessed in order to be most useful.

I am at such peace and rest when my husband is at my breast. There is nothing like it. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t care if the house looks perfect or not; there are other things that are more important and take priority. As a woman though, I take pride is making our home a comfortable and peaceful place to live. This is part of what I do and who I am.

Maybe you are at the same point in your life…tired of the status quo… whatever that may mean to you. What improvements and/or changes have you made that might be helpful to others? We at Woman-essence look forward to reading your goals and improvements that you would like to make for the coming year.

Blessing to you and yours for the coming New Year!

Luvmyhub

P.S. Only four (4) life changes are listed. Honestly, I don’t think that I can handle any more  than that at one time. LOL. However, these are all major changes that will greatly simplify my life.