As always and forever, I am Luvmyhub

How blessed I am to have found “the One”. My husband and I are so in tune that it scares me sometimes. He seems to know me better than I know myself and at other times I am unsure if the time we have left to live will enable us to even scratch the surface. We’ve been married for over 6 years and in many ways we feel that we are just getting started. Catching up for lost time…he was my H.S. sweetheart many, many years ago. When we reunited some 27 yrs. later, that butterfly feeling returned as if we had just met. I am getting the flutters as I type this…tears forming.

This morning we had a very special bosom session. We were catching up for lost time. How exciting it was…I am forever grateful for this time in our lives. Every encounter is precious to me for we never know when our best friend, lover and spouse will cease to exist (or ourselves for that matter). I want to live each and every day as if it is our last, but this summer heat zaps my energy. My heart, mind and soul desire it though, each and every day.

Yes, I suppose it could get even hotter outside…but I much prefer the heat we create inside! It reminds me of that old song, “Fever” or “Steam Heat”! I know that some of you out there know what I am talking about. I keep waiting for the day that my twenty-something year-old daughters come to me and say, “Mom, you will never believe what I just read in Cosmo!…there are women who nurse  their lovers…it’s called ANR…Can you believe that”? Geez, how will I respond…maybe, “Oh Honey, that’s old news” (laughing nervously) or will I say, “Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it”! I can see their jaws dropping in disbelief. LOL.

May the love that you share with your soul mate continue to blossom and grow with each new day; try to keep cool out in this summer heat.

Please feel free to write and share your thoughts…as always, I will keep you anonymous if you prefer.

Blessings to all,

Luvmyhub

I raised my garden a few weeks ago and planted cool weather plants; started seeds inside to be trans-planted later. Everything just seems so fresh and new. I feel younger somehow during this time of year. My arthritis doesn’t act up as much and I don’t feel as stiff when I wake up simply because I am more active when the weather is warmer…kind of like a reptile…LOL!

And is there anything better than bosoming and making love with the windows open and a slight breeze blowing through the room. Just me and my hubby…the only two people in the world (or so it seems) loving, pleasuring and nurturing  one another in ways that only we can. My husband is the ONLY man that has ever truly loved me; aside of my own father…but I’m talking about Romantic Love. Dad used to say that true love is a verb, an action word…it has feet. Love is demonstrated through actions. My DH knows me so well, sometimes better than I know myself. He understands my needs and provides a back or foot rub whenever I need it MOST…he demonstrates his love in so many ways I find myself on a mission to love and care for him in every way possible. Truly I think we sometimes try to “outlove” one another…not out of competition, but out of a true desire to love one another to the fullest extent.

We are not promised tomorrow; I want to use each and every day as an opportunity to love my husband better, longer, and deeper…who knows when a simple kiss goodbye may be our last. My father passed away 6 yrs. ago…it still hurts, especially when I see my mother’s loneliness. Dad truly loved my mom.
Cling not to worldly possessions but to those people that you love; they are the only things that truly last.

May you have a blessed spring day as you ponder the ones you love and demonstrate your love for them.

Lovingly,
Luvmyhub

I can’t help but think about the things that I want to improve on. Being a pack-rat is probably the biggest albatross that I have carried around all of my life; one that I would love to be released from. Never wanting to “waste” anything and thinking, “Oh, that may come in handy one day” line of thinking has culminated in nothing but a bunch of junk stored in boxes over the years.

And that “vortex of sequences”!…before I can put the dishes in the dishwasher the dishes have to be rinsed off…before I rinse off the dishes, I have to unload the dishwasher… before I can unload the dishwasher, I have to reorganize the shelf space where the dishes will be stored. The phone rings and I’m thrown off track held captive in a conversation that lasts too long. Or while involved in one task I become bored (I guess) and think, “I’m gonna just run and throw that load of laundry in the washer” and fail to complete the task that was previously started…so easily distracted am I…sigh. Surely I have ADD.
And paperwork…the stacks I need to organize? We won’t even go there!

I am my own worst enemy; I love deadline stress. I think that I purposely wait till the last minute to do something because I like the adrenaline rush of running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off. At age 50, do I not realize how long it takes to get ready to go somewhere? Surely not! Having unrealistic ideas about how much I can accomplish within a certain amount of time often causes me to be late or nearly late to everything. Can ANYONE relate to what I am talking about?

All of these things simply add to the stress in my life. And guess who is responsible for it all? No one else but me. Although I do not run my life this way 24/7, it does occur more often than I would like. I have much discipline in many areas of my life and in others it feels like utter chaos.

My husband and I have a unique situation; we are living in a home that we are totally remodeling. We live in a VERY small living space. It is really kind of fun…like camping but with some special challenges. We have also received additional items given to us by family and are running out of storage. It is time to do some serious purging.

Refusing to make “New Year’s Resolutions” I will vow to make some healthy changes in my life…I will update you in February or March as to how things are coming along. Will you join me in this adventure? It will be fun! Right? A few changes that I would like to make are as follows:

1) I will go to bed and arise earlier, making a list the night before I retire of the most important things that need to be done the following day.

2) I will handle a piece of paper/mail a maximum of 2 times…once just isn’t realistic. It will promptly be placed in the trash, filed appropriately or paid.

3) Although I had started to go through things in our storage building last month (it got cold), I will press on toward the goal to go through those boxes and take stuff to our local charitable organization, the library or the dump within the next month. The kids will be around and can help me!

4) The remaining necessities of life will be organized in such a way that they are easily accessed in order to be most useful.

I am at such peace and rest when my husband is at my breast. There is nothing like it. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t care if the house looks perfect or not; there are other things that are more important and take priority. As a woman though, I take pride is making our home a comfortable and peaceful place to live. This is part of what I do and who I am.

Maybe you are at the same point in your life…tired of the status quo… whatever that may mean to you. What improvements and/or changes have you made that might be helpful to others? We at Woman-essence look forward to reading your goals and improvements that you would like to make for the coming year.

Blessing to you and yours for the coming New Year!

Luvmyhub

P.S. Only four (4) life changes are listed. Honestly, I don’t think that I can handle any more  than that at one time. LOL. However, these are all major changes that will greatly simplify my life.

Of course there are exceptions…many women have reported becoming quickly aroused and have enjoyed many a “quickie”; I enjoy these from time to time, but even my quickies are fueled by thinking about sex throughout the day which serves to warm me up in preparation for those encounters. Thinking about sex with my husband when we are busy throughout the day definitely put our sex life on the fast track…it was the catalyst for my very own sexual reawakening earlier this year. The mind is a very powerful thing

Attitude is everything! Have you heard that phrase before? Well, maybe it’s NOT everything, but it sure goes a long way in many aspects of my life. My thinking about sex and all of the fun filled fantasies that I cook up for my husband have led me to think of myself in a different light. For the first time in my life, I started to think of myself as sexy! Oh, I always knew that my DH thought of me that way, but it is truly a different thing when a woman starts thinking about herself that way especially out of the bedroom. “Sexy” is an attitude that I have come to enjoy…it makes me feel beautiful and even more desired by my husband. I will never forget the day that my grown children attended church with us one Sunday. One of my daughters had her arm around my waist while singing, mine around her back. As we began to sit down after singing a hymn, she unintentionally slid her hand down my backside. The dress I was wearing was not tight, but the fabric allowed her to feel right through to my undies. Imagine the look on her face when she asked me, “Mom, are you wearing a thong”?! Thank goodness I didn’t go commando that day! LOL. My new sexy ‘tude has carried over into my clothing…not being trashy or immodest…but with a few new surprises. Oh, what was my response to my daughter’s question? I replied, “Honey, I may be old, but I’m not dead yet”!

Talking with my mate! Truly the most intimate thing that my husband can do with me is to TALK with me. Recently, I read this poll that asked what men and women wanted most in a relationship. To my surprise, it was friendship for both. But that really makes sense doesn’t it? Both sexes want to have a trusting friendship first and foremost with their significant other. Think back to when you were first dating your one true love. I bet you spent hours talking on the phone or in person. You couldn’t spend enough time together or hear one another’s voice often enough. Even though we are married some years now and are together much of the day, I still love the sound of my husband’s voice…it is extremely sexy to me. I love it when he calls and leaves me a message on my cell phone; I save his voice messages. When you combine his touch with his voice together it sends me over the edge. When Hubby talks to me throughout the day it really warms me up…like that iron.

About human touch. Volumes have been written on the subject but this will be brief. My husband and I reach out to one another throughout the day. It is so reassuring and comforting. His touch sends tingles all over my body and his smile makes me feel “butterflies” in my belly. Our touch, through a kiss, hug or grazing of a hand over a waist, no matter how brief seems to say, “I notice you; I love you” without using any words. It is a powerful thing.

His eyes! Oh, girls…does your man give you “that look”? I can’t even describe it. It is a look that just melts my heart and excites me all at the same time. It is a look that is reserved only for me…his girl. It is sacred and precious. I am tearing up right now as I see it in my mind’s eye. So many non-verbal cues can be used to make sure that your mate knows that you treasure them, love them and are desirous only of them.

Most women and men fulfill multiple roles in their marriages and families. As women, many of these years are spent being a wife, mother, student and wage-earner…often coming home exhausted only having to start dinner the minute they walk in the door. Men are tired too, mentally and physically from the heavy demands regarding work, school and the responsibilities they bear for their families. The realities of life, hard work both in and out of the home drain us of precious time and energy. But intimacy with our mates must be kept a priority…it keeps us connected in a way that is not shared with anyone else. It is precious, priceless and critical. Intimacy comes in many forms. Some couples experience tremendous challenges…emotional and physical challenges that dictate being more creative to achieve intimate closeness, but it is so worth it. Many of you may being experiencing some of these challenges right now. Please share with us on this very important topic. Everyone has different and unique challenges when it comes to maintaining intimacy. No one is exempt.

These are some of the most prominent thoughts that came into my mind regarding how I get “warmed up”…there are others. Everyone is different and you may have different thoughts or needs that you would like to share with us here. Don’t be shy; you never know how your experiences or advice might help others.

Blessings to you and yours,

Luvmyhub