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Thanks for sharing your experiences. It is such an encouragement.
I really enjoy your blog. It is a great resource for those of us interested in ANR. Keep up the good work!
All I can say is “fantastic”! I am thrilled to read about your journey, especially after 25 yrs of marriage. I don’t see myself letting go to my dh like this even though I’d love to have an ANR very much. Congrats to you both!
Thank you for this site. It is also visually beautiful.
Thank you for such a beautiful site. I just now discovered it and can’t wait to take some time to read it thoroughly. From what I’ve read/seen so far, I am intrigued and inspired in my quest for an ANR. Thank you for creating this forum.
Susan
Over the last few months, I started inducing, then stopped, and now back into inducing for the last 3 weeks. I do not have an ANR partner, but still feel this is something that I must do.
I very much enjoyed reading your blog. Thank you for taking the time to share your essence.
BJ
I am starting inducing this week , very exited and captivated in all of it right now . Very happily and successfully nursed all three of my children and my husband twenty five years ago. At times all four of them at one time. I had my four year old son trying to say goodbye to the comforts of his breastmilk, two year old daughter still nursing 2 to 3 times a day , newborn daughter on full schedule and my ever patient husband always hungrily waiting his turn. Those days sadly are long gone, but I really want my abundant southern milk back just for him. Working with Yasmin BC pills, Motillum and mothers milk tea and lots of beautiful stimulation.Wish us well !!!!
Lots of well wishing coming your way!!! Keep in touch please! (There is space here for you if you would like to share your journal with us.)
Thanks for sharing your experiences in ANR and induction. Your reports are very encouraging. I am glad to see your and your husband’s happiness. I very appreciate your style of describing events and feelings.
Micha
I thoroughly enjoy reading of your amazing experience and progress in the ANR you and your dear husband embarked upon . Your candor is such a gift to all of us! I am so grateful to reconnect with you my friend. My partner and I are both reading your blogs and info on the page. Kudos!
Annie ~Muskegon, MI
Thank you for following me on twitter – I was beginning to think that me and my team were the only ones fighting for intimacy and stronger marriages the way God indented them to be. I hope we can collaborate in future!
Blessings
Hesca – Pretoria, South Africa
I hope so too.
You have done a wonderful job with your site!
God Bless,
HM
Thanks for sharing your story. It is so encouraging. We accidentally stumbled upon this, but when I realized I was getting drops, read up on it and we decided to try ANR. Only 5 weeks into it, since we discovered. All ready I am noticing changes, and increased supply. Thanks for sharing what to expect, we have so much to look forward to.
Thank you for sharing your story! I have really enjoyed reading it. I found your site from LandMilkHoney.com I actually induced lactation just over a year ago. It is the most amazing experience I have ever been on. Truly wish I knew this was possible when we were first married over 10 years ago. I think of the years that we missed out on this, but am so thankful I found out about it. At first I was afraid to mention it to my husband. Even though he has always loved my breasts, which have been such a blessing to me. When I finally mentioned it to him, he laughed, because he had wanted to try it but was afraid to mention it to me. LOL Great minds think alike!
Warm Wishes ~
Lily ~ Michigan
Dear Lily, I had to smile. What a happy story! May you enjoy bosom love for the rest of your days.
I have just found your site by accident! It is amazing and I now know that I am normal!!
I thought I was some perverted freak!! I am 44 years old and love having my breasts sucked constantly. I am fortunate that my husband loves my breasts and play as well! Long before I ever had my first child and breast fed my baby I would fantasise about having my husband drink my pure sweet milk. I was so lucky that we have always were in tune sexually and he obliged willingly. To have kept my milk for him solely after I had nursed my children would have been a dream we both would have loved.
Unfortunately I suffered from post natal depression and was made to cease breast feeding due to the medication I was put on.
I wept and was so sad to give up feeding and truly loved the whole experience.
Now i have been surfing the net and have only learnt that my fantasy has a name. ANR!! Less than 24hrs of finding out about all this my husband and I have committed to making my milk return and to embrace an opportunity to have such a magical experience back into our lives. We have agreed to morning and night feeds, our working commitments prevent us from indulging more.
Will him sucking my nipples 2ce a day be enough to re-induce my milk? Should I employ the use of a breast pump? They are nearly not as much fun! If that is what it takes i am happy to do it.
Thank you for your wonderful site!!! I feel reborn again. I may never regain the magic of feeding my children again, but to have the sensual and regenerating couple experience is amazing!! Thank you and may your universe be full of blessings for you and yours. xox
Hello Louise,
I am happy for you. Thank you for taking the time to share this with me.
If you want milk, you will probably have to use a pump to get it started. I have heard of cases where couples got milk with just twice a day suckling, but that is the exception. It usually takes more at the beginning. More than anything, it will take patience and loving the suckling time even more than the milk. Attitude and confidence are good, stress and frustration with waiting are not. So try to enjoy your time together.
Thank you for your blessings, many happy returns,
HM
I found your submission so touching I had to respond. I can hear how much you desire an ANR relationship. As a woman who has been in an ANR marriage for 10 years (I am also very pregnant at the moment) I can tell you you will need more than two sessions a day to help you re-lactate. Even with my husband nursing and with a baby here soon, we still require 4 nursing times a day to keep me fully lactated for him. Any time of the day can work, but we aim for a longer morning and evening session. And then shorter nursing snacks around noon and in the middle of the night. I usually pump twice a day, but since I’m so close to going into labor I can’t do that right now. Find a pump that works two breasts at the same time so you can be done in about 15-20 minutes. Also find one that has a strong pull, similar to what your babies felt like when they nursed. Talk to your doctor about using progesterone. That helped me when I first started. I know you are working, and we went through this earlier on. Your car is your best friend. We would take a lunch break on a cul de sac or somewhere private. He would put his head in my lap and nurse me with a light towel I threw over us. I would get in the habit of wearing a nursing bra all the time. You never know when he might want to suckle, and just being able to flip down the flap over your nipple makes it easier. I wish you so much luck. Breast feeding my husband has been a very nurturing and sexual part of our marriage. I wish it for you too.
Wow…GREAT site! I too am one of the many men looking for that very special women/partner to have an ANR with! Nothing like it, I’ve had one in the past, and I miss it so much! Once you’ve been involved in an ANR, it becomes a part of you as a person! What a GREAT way for a couple to express their intamacy & bonding of their bodies, minds and souls with eachother, and for eachother! Again GREAT site, and Thank You!
enjoyed dicovering this added little facet to your life
My wife Happyshe and I have had 3 children, which she nursed 2 years each. We always enjoyed breast play before and after the children but I did not nurse during their nursing times. Some years later she suggested that if I sucked more regularly her milk would return. My attraction to the idea was instantanious. Since then we’ve been in an on and off (working life complications) nursing relationship for 8 years. We’ve always been in love but the times when we are full in ANR bring the most intense intimacy and joy that may possible for a couple.
Your site is nicely done and your writing captures the reality of a successful couple’s immersion in an ANR. Thanks for your work.
PS
I came across your site as a link from Nursing my Soldier after I did a search on my own screen name, HappyMe603.
Dear Milkmaid,
I too found out about you on Land of Milk and Honey!
One morning, DH was suckling on my breasts and he said, “I want to drink your milk”…I asked, “Are you serious?” in a very positive and excited tone. He said, “Of course…why do you ask?” I replied, “Because, if you really want to, we can do it!”. That led me to searching the internet seeking info. re: “nursing your husband” which took me to LOMH site… after perusing that site, I finally noticed your link to your blog that you referred to in a reply that you made. The first thing that I read was “Waking My Bosom”; I loved it!! You’ve done exactly what I wanted to do, but publicly. I really want to keep a journal about our ANR journey…maybe a great-grand child will read it some day (long after I’m dead) and start their own journey. Ha, Ha! Your entries are insightful, encouraging and personal. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences with us newbies.
Owning our own business allows us ample time for multiple nursing sessions. Our lives have been changed dramatically! At nearly 50 yo., our sex life has never been better and we are esp. thankful for our new found ANR. My husband and I can’t believe how much closer and even more bonded we feel to one another since we started regular nursing sessions. Taking the time, out of a very busy day, to put each other first through this loving act is indescribable.
Thank you again for bringing this wonderful mystery out into the open so that others can enjoy it as well!
Wow, what a great site!!! I ran across ANR website while sufing the web. my husband is away on a trip, I can’t wait until he gets back, I am a little worried about how he will respond to my requests but he is a boob man so i’m sure all will go well.
First you asked how we found you. When we first fell into the ABF/ANR we started to do some surfing and found Christian ANR.
They were the ones that encouraged we check out your sight.
So that is where our journey started. Back on Sept 21st we were going through some stressful work related problems, and being my
DH enjoys my breasts, he started doing extensive fondling of them. We had enjoyed that before, but never to that extent. When he stopped I couldn’t believe the complete peace I felt. I mentioned to him that something was flowing in my body, and I liked it. That led to him asking if he could nurse me. With a smile I said YES! At that we decided to surf the web on the topic. Needless to say what we found was ANR. That started our new adventure. It has been 11 weeks now and it goes deeper each time. As one person said on the web, the new found transparency we have with each other is awesome. Well yes, the foundling led to nursing my breasts, and that just pushed us over the edge. Now we are at a crossroads, though, and are hoping others can direct us further. You see I am now 61 and have never had a child. As I surf the web, it says that the reproductive and mammary part of our bodies are completely separate. Even though you have never given birth, you can breast feed. So with that we checked with my Dr. and she said go for it. Now is the questions, How can we induce lactation?
We started nursing 4 to 6 times a day and taking Fenugreek, Blest Thistle, and Fennel Tea. We can definitely see a major change in my breasts, My DH said it started like nursing a empty bottle nipple and now it is like sucking a hot dog. The breasts are much more filled too.
There have been times when we feel that something has come out of my nipples but have never seen it. Were told that milk starts with little
droplets and then builds. So we are on a adventure were neither of us know where we are going, but don’t want it to stop, Any one help!?
Hello and welcome!
My comment is, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”! You both are right on target. Your experience is very much like ours…we just kind of fell into this thing on our own…researched it afterward and discovered that what we were doing actually had a name. Like you, daily breast play led to suckling which culminated into an awareness of the desire to nurse and lactate. We started our ANR in earnest on Sept. 23, 2009 and brought my milk in at around 4-5 wks. At week 2 we saw larger and larger drops which led to squirts. Soon Hubby was gulping away for 2-3 minutes at a time. We were nursing every 4-5 hours around the clock.
The supply of milk has a direct relationship to the demand. The more your husband nurses, the more you will produce…with or without herbs. No herbs were used while we induced, but we have added them as we have had to cut back on the number of nursing sessions per day…alas, the daily demands of life!
And yes, you are correct…childbirth is NOT a requirement to be able to breastfeed. As your journey continues, you may find that your breasts begin to feel fuller, heavier and experience some new sensations. Another feeling you may begin to have is called “the let-down reflex”. The let-down reflex is a physiological experience. It begins with a tingling sensation accompanied by a feeling that fluids are being released all at once…sort of a flush or release initiated from the back sides surrounding my breasts closest to the chest wall moving towards the nipples. This occurs over a period of a few seconds and gives a feeling of relief. This description is from my own personal experience. I’m sure different women feel different sensations…it’s like my breasts have a life of their own that can only be “turned-on” by my precious husband while at my breasts. I began to experience the let-down reflex even before my milk came in, but just shortly before…sort of a precursor to the milk arriving in larger quantities.
True love has no boundaries. At age 50, my husband and I have discovered all kinds of new and inventive ways to say “I Love You”! Our ANR has brought us even closer…a new bond formed. It’s truly indescribable.
Thank you for sharing your adventure with us and we hope that you will continue to stop by anytime to ask questions or share your own experiences. Many topics are discussed here at “Woman-essence” and we welcome your comments!
Many Blessings to you and your DH as you continue your journey,
Luvmyhub
Dear Dream Land,
I agree with Luvmyhub.
I have done a lot of reading on ANR forums. There a quite a few women who have never been pregnant, some have even had complete hysterectomies, and they are still able to lactate.
When a woman goes through pregnancy, her breast prepare for action due to the change in hormones. Her breasts retain some of these changes even after she weans. This makes re-inducing lactation faster than inducing lactation… generally.
You will also lactate because of the stimulation of hormones cause by the stimulation of your nipples. It is most likely going to take you longer to reach lactation than it takes a woman who has been pregnant. Your body has not been through the long nine month process. Look on the bright side, most of us milkmaids enjoy the suckling of the inducing stage, more than a long pregnancy.
There is a link on this site to the Stargate Library where you can find all sorts of thorough advice on inducing. Personal, I think what you are doing already is best. Just give it extra time to establish the milk and enjoy the inducing process. Confidence is your friend, impatience and fretting is your enemy. Your mind plays a big role. Know you can do this. It is how a woman’s body is wired.
I am excited for the two of you.
Blessing,
HM
Thanks both of you, Luvmyhub & Milkmaid. You will never know how encouraging both of your comments were to both of us!!! We will stay in touch and update you our journey. I asked my DH what he wants for Christms and his answer was ” All I want for Christmas is your Breasts & Or Breast Milk
)
Awwweee Dream Land,
” All I want for Christmas is your Breasts & Or Breast Milk
)…………
That is soooooooooo adorable! Merry Christmas to you both!
Blessings,
Luvmyhub
Have been in an ANR marriage for over 10 years which has been a blessing. So thank you for this site. Am just about to deliver our third baby and I am looking forward to a few years of nursing new baby and husband. I use the pump in between pregnancies but I do love this stage of ample milk. Happy Holidays
Welcome and wow! Ten years plus…would love to hear more about how this long-term nursing relationship has changed your lives. I love your lead-in statement, ” Have been in an ANR marriage…”. Congratulations on your upcoming delivery.
Blessings to all of you during this special time of your life!
Luvmyhub
ANR has made our marriage so much deeper. We are so dependent on one another for emotional and physical sustenance. My husband is so turned on by the beauty of my big belly and full breasts and lets me know constantly. It keeps the marriage so alive. Lately our evening nursing session can produce a lovely way of drifting off, or if he latches on and sucks strongly I feel a need to have him immediately. I’m entering my ninth month and soon we have to be good and wait for our new daughter to make her appearance. But knowing my husband is there and will be there is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Welcome naynay04 to the blog and congratulations on your upcoming birth!
What a beautiful testimony of your love relationship between you and your spouse. I love the way you put it…
“We are so dependent on one another for emotional and physical sustenance”.
Pregnant women are beautiful. They just glow and are literally and figuratively so full of life…the essence of femininity! You are truly blessed to have a husband that appreciates your full beauty in all its glory. Isn’t it wonderful to be loved in this way?
There’s a lot more here at Woman-essence. Click through the different categories/tags to read the many posts that have been made by our hostess, Hismilkmaid. I am a new author here and am encouraging our readers to come by often. We check for comments daily and are committed to giving you a voice within the blog format.
We look forward to hearing more from you in the future; encourage hubby to share his thoughts if he is comfortable. I believe a man’s perspective would be helpful to others who struggle with the idea.
Blessings to you and your family,
Luvmyhub
Thank You for you best wishes. Am due to deliver very soon so I will be otherwise occupied. Even though it’s our third baby in ten years, it always takes a while to adjust to the new schedule. But when the 5 of us are settled in I will be back. I look forward to that time after I birth a new baby and my milk comes in. All these years later it’s still a rush for my husband and I to enjoy our infant and each other. In more ways than one. Will be back to encourage others to adopt ANR into their marriage. It has been such a blessing for us. Cheers!
I knew this guestbook existed, but couldn’t think of something to write, until now, at the cusp of a new year.
I’m very glad that you set up this website, and kept the updates coming. It’s become a nexus of sorts for the Bosoming Community, and a great place for people to realize that they’re not alone and that they’re not freaks for asking this of their beloveds. This isn’t even a “fetish,” it’s a beautiful way of expressing your love and establishing a wonderful interdependence with one another. Depending on your commitment level it need not even cost anything but your time and understanding.
Thank you again for keeping this website alive. I hope it will continue to inform people of this wonderful way of cherishing and nourishing an intimate, committed relationship for many years to come.
Signed,
TrashCanFoundling
Thank you, and Happy New year to You!
we’ve been doing the breast feeding for about 15 weeks and are now just beginning to get whispers of taste…. so we’re assuming it’s slowly happening… is that right??? can you encourage us to keep going??
what’s your feelings about using fenugreek, fennel and blessed thistle? we’re at about 2.4grams of fenugreek/daily
thanks for your encouragement and thoughts
Dear Dream Land,
It does sound like you might be beginning to lactate. From what I have read and from my own experience…this is a gradual occurrence. For instance, my husband and I wanted to bring my milk in ASAP…we nursed every 4-5 hrs. around the clock. Hubby started getting, what he thought were drops, around two or two-and-a-half weeks. Within a month he was getting streams of milk, gulping non-stop for around a two minute period (with the milk let-down reflex) and then waxing and waning for the remainder of our bosoming time. We nursed around 20 mins. on each side. Over the last month or two we had to cut back on our number of sessions. However, when we nursed 3x a day, we were still able to maintain the same amount of milk as before. Two nursings a day allowed for some milk; one nursing…a few drops to none.
Even with the initial schedule, my milk seemed to ebb and flow depending on the time of day (the least amount first thing in the morning), fluid intake, and rest versus stress. For me, my mental state of being is important as well. When nursing, I am in a very relaxed state, willing and imagining milk pouring forth from my breasts…very into it. I loved nursing my babies, but I never imagined what it could be like with my husband. It felt like milk was coming out of my breasts even before it actually did!
At first, we used no supplements. I gradually added blessed thistle and fenugreek. My DOM should arrive in the mail any time now. As an aside, I have been peri-menopausal for a few years, off and on. Only a woman going through this understands what that means…off and on; menopause is a process that occurs over time. Come to think about it, the times I was hot flashing the most was during periods of extreme stress. Don’t know if that has anything to do with it or if this is coincidental. I will say that I have been religiously taking my herbs for nearly a month and the hot flashes have stopped! Also, when Hubby nursed regularly, I had no periods. As long as I nursed my babies, I never had a period. Again, are these coincidences or am I now menopausal? Only time will tell.
Herbs and medications are NOT necessary to lactate. Frequent, regular nursing at regular nursing intervals ARE necessary. Do you have to nurse 5x a day? Not necessarily. Everyone truly is different and what is needed to maintain my milk supply may very well be different from yours. Once your milk supply is established, you can experiment and see how often you need to bosom in order to have the desired supply.
Bottom line. The supply is directly related to the demand…the more your hubby demands the more you will supply. When I was nursing my babes, if I needed to increase my supply, I added a feeding to my regular schedule. It took 5 days to a week to feel a real difference. Right now your breasts are starting to give a little milk…they will continue to and are still changing in preparation for even more milk production. This is a process.
I know that you are anxious, but try to not become discouraged (I’ve been there)…sounds like you are right on the cusp of having a good milk supply. Adding one more nursing session during a 24-hr. period may be all you need to get you there. Does life allow you to take a nap during the day? How is your fluid intake? Our bodies need extra fluids when lactating.
I truly feel like, “If I can do this, anyone can”. I can’t make any promises, but I hope my words and experience encourage you. I am 50 yrs. old and my last baby weaned 17 years ago! Hubby and I brought my milk in within a month without herbs or supplements…but with a frequent and regular nursing schedule; only adding supplements afterward. The closeness and the bond that my husband and I share is indescribable whether the nursing is “wet” or “dry”.
Please keep us updated on your progress, what works and doesn’t work for you. You are helping others when you share your journey. Thanks for stopping by today. We look forward to hearing from you again soon!
Best to you and your hubby as your ANR journey continues,
Luvmyhub
By the way, would love to find a community of women who are in an AN marriage and are still having babies. I appreciate how demanding it is to re-lactate or to induce lactation. I did it for my then husband to be before my first pregnancy. But there are certain issues that arise that are different. For instance, nursing your husband and a baby at the same time. Or even the situation I’m in now which is being 9 months pregnant and nursing four times a day to keep myself full for my husband before my new milk comes in. (Try even finding a comfortable position) Also for a younger woman ANR, while I wouldn’t trade it for the world does have certain limitations. In order to keep it a secret which we have done (even from our older children; an 8 and 4 year old) we have to keep to a very strict schedule and code. We need a half hour to sneak away for lunch, especially after my milk comes in. My husband who is 15 years older than I am is the love of my life and we have created a beautiful family together. I would love to meet other women who are lactating for their partners while still having babies. I think it would be helpful.
Although I am not is the same phase of life as you, scheduling is an issue regardless of age. When my college age children were home for the Christmas break it was very difficult to find time to nurse. Children naturally want to hang out with their parents all of the time when home; needing lots of reassurance. Hubby and I missed a lot of sessions. Kids at this age, 19 and older, are very savy. We cut way back on our nursing before they came home to accommodate this schedule change. Two of our children attend college close to home and visit on occasion. We have had to be very creative to squeeze in our time together…sending them out to pick up lunch or run to the store.
I’ve nursed an older baby (14 months) while pregnant; while this is different from what you are experiencing, it was very tiring and my breasts were extremely sore. My baby weaned when seeing the tears roll down my cheeks from the pain of nursing. It was difficult at best…having her wean earlier than expected.
From what I have read, everyone has some kind of challenge to overcome…some more difficult or different than others. I appreciate the difficulty that you are experiencing, but I haven’t experienced exactly what you are going through. I will defer to His Milkmaid! I think that she can relate to what you are going through more than I. Also, there are some links provided here at Woman-essence that you might find helpful.
Blessings,
Luvmyhub
Dear Naynay,
I had hoped to find a group like you are suggesting. I have spent many hours searching the net when I started this site and began posting links. I even started a thread on the subject, but there was no response. It seems like the milkmaids who find time to post in forums are mostly past their years of children at home, but I do run across young moms in some of the yahoo groups. I want to encourage you to keep seeking the support you are looking for.
I still have young children at home; some in grade school. They are actually easier than the teens who catch the slightest hints between my husband and me. Like you, we have had to set aside time, and have a flexible schedule, but not so flexible that we allow little things to get in the way of what is important to us… each other.
Pregnancy and the following recovery from birth is a heavy toll on your physical strength. As parents we have to make sacrifices in order to give our children what they need, and at the same time try to meet the needs of our spouse and ourselves. When you have the baby to help keep your supply going, you may want to consider bosoming less frequently, maybe saving it for bed time and those spontaneous times of love making. Too, remember the colostrum. The baby really needs this. Most advice I have seen from midwives and nurses who discuss bosoming, suggest that the husband abstains from bosoming after the birth until the colostrum has changed to milk and the mom’s strength has returned.
I envy the special time you have coming. It is wonderful that your husband gets to share the bonding experience that the nursing relationship brings. Many husbands feel rejected and forgotten during the baby’s first year. It puts a strain on the relationship. Instead, you will be nurturing it. Try to make this as least stressful as possible. Fit it in when it can be stress free. Some couples have felt the need to sporadically bosom just a couple times a week until the baby is less demanding on mom. The time will come when the baby is nursing less and the breasts are more available for dad. Every couple is different, and even the babies themselves can make a difference between one child to the next. Just remember to take care of yourself, so you can take care of your family. Don’t over do it. As a new mom that is nearly impossible. With other children at home you will have plenty to pull you in every direction.
I hope you can find the group you are looking for. Try the society of nursing couples yahoo group and send out feelers by posting. You are always welcome here. If I can assist you with use of this site just let me know. I am glad you found us. May you have a blessed birth!
UPDATE: I just caught up with your previous post and now realize you are far from a newbie at this! Ten years! Congratulations! Even though you obviously know what you are doing, I think I will leave my reminders and encouragement for others who may not have your vast experience. We welcome your own advice for new moms.
Very sweet advice, thank you. Yes, I have had two children in my AN Marriage, (this baby will be our third) and actually I find it easier to increase the number of sessions once my milk comes in. My husband’s suckling keep my breasts softer and helps relax me as I take care of our older children plus feed our infant. ( I do have some child care help as well) My husband always knew this is what he wanted, and we have reaped the benefits of the closeness and intimacy ten years of nursing has brought our marriage. This is always an anxious time for me. I find it easy to get pregnant and be pregnant, but my labor and births are difficult-long and painful. We have to stop nursing in this 9th month so as not to bring on early labor. And I miss that comfort. Thanks for the suggestions as to where to look for younger Moms. I will let you know how it all goes. Sometime this week we will welcome a new baby into our family. I so appreciate your understanding.
Your encouragement to both me and my DH was what we needed to keep going at ANR. It has now been nearly 19 weeks and actually the milk started coming in at a little over 17 weeks. Remember I am over 60 now and have never had the joy of birthing a child. So to realize that I am actually feeding my DH my milk is something to behold. Yes everything that people say about ANR we have found true. The bonding, transparency, relaxness and all are what keeps us looking to the future of our ANR. Luvmyhub thank you so much for encouraging us to keep going. When the milk came in it came in in a flow and pop. Literally one night we heard a pop and my DH said there’s milk. Usually, he says, that he has to prime the breast for 5 minutes on each side and the second 5 minutes, all of a sudden, like a capsule opening a warm flow of sweet warm milk will flow into his mouth.One night, though, he went to by breasts and it was right there. He said to me its there, and he gulped a couple good drinks. Now a couple weeks after the first milk there is at least a taste about every other time we nurse. Our prayer now is that we can increase the milk to a flow.
Wow Dream Land! How exciting and what a wonderful blessing for you and your husband to be able to experience the joys of lactation within an ANR. I rejoice with you as I know that feeling of exhilaration of being able to lactate; it happened for us just before my 50th birthday. Keep up the great work! It sounds like you are doing everything right; your milk should continue to increase very gradually with your continued schedule. Mine started out with drops…then a squirt, now and then. Before we knew it, my husband was swallowing mouthfuls for 2-3 minutes at a time. It is very normal for the milk to ebb and flow…don’t get discouraged. The supply was different for me too depending on the time of day we nursed, my fluid intake, and adequate rest.
Thank you so much for updating us here at Woman-essence; your story will be very encouraging to others who seek the same journey that you now enjoy. Your patience most definitely was rewarded. Congratulations!
I have so enjoyed reading this site, and the comments here as well. “Dream Land” has a wonderful, loving story, as do others, but hers is so close to my age that I’m loving her experience.
Put me in the category of a husband who has wished for this for many, many years, but is just now getting the sense of bliss it can truly bring. My beautiful, slightly gray-haired wife and I have a wonderful, loving relationship, but only recently has it begun to include semi-regular suckling.
As those of you who are already enjoying this intimacy well know, it brings a state of bliss that is hard to describe. It is dry suckling only, and scheduling will keep it that way, but it is heavenly and loving and induces in me an immediate sense of total and complete love and affection that is hard to explain. Even days later my sense of adoration and satisfaction with the experience is all encompassing.
All I can figure is that our brains are wired to react to this ultimate nurturing and I don’t know what the chemical is that gets released in my brain, but it’s as powerful as can be in creating an emotional and physical bond with my beautiful wife.
She thinks I love all breasts, but no, I love hers, and I love the bond it forms between us.
Lips to bosom, arms holding gently, I purr with contentment and adore her beyond my dreams. It is not infantile, and is only tangentially sexual. It is nurturing in it’s purest form.
Thank you for this site. Keep up the posting.
LW,
Your love for your wife is so evident in your words of praise and adoration for her. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts with us; those from a contented, loving, bosoming husband. I for one have been greatly blessed!
I came a cross this wonderful site last October. I nursed our children but at the time it never occurred to me to nurse my husband too.
If it occurred to him he never mentioned it. That was 15 years ago. Now, we enjoy that time very much. We are dry nursing because of schedules and life circumstances. We always get in an evening session and most mornings. I let him nurse whenever he desires and I ask for bosom time too. So we have several nursing sessions on the weekend if possible- one teen still at home. My favorite though is to be woken in the middle of the night to the sensation of my husband latching on. AN has brought us closer in so many ways. I adore him more then I thought I ever could. To have such deep trust and a strong bond with my husband is a blessing that I cherish.
I appreciate everyone sharing their experiences, it’s wonderful that others are experiencing such a special relationship.
~…let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.~
I had a failed pregnancy and even tho it was early on my breasts still went thru *the change* and if stimulated on a regular basis they produce milk. I am no longer seeing the man I had the failed pregnancy with, I am seeing someone new – for about 1 year now. I have told him over and over I would like him to spend more time at my breasts when we’re intimate, but he just doesn’t get it, doesn’t give me what I’m craving at all.
I am beginning to wonder if he is ‘one of those’ men who feel like the act of suckling is just for babies. I am sad because I have already told him a couple of times what I would like, he still doesn’t do it, it feels like REJECTION to me. He enjoys our time so much, he savors every moment of it, tells me things that take my breath away.
I guess he’s not a Boob-man?
I wonder if I’ll ever be able to get him into this thing that I desire so much..
Could it be that he feels as though he is the one doing all of the work and not getting enough in return? I’m not saying that IS what is going on, but sometimes one may feel they are doing all of the “giving” in an emotional or even physical sense and are wanting something for themselves that they are too afraid to ask for. I know that my husband loves for me to ask for certain things in the bedroom, but I am so happy with whatever he does that I don’t think of it in terms of not getting what I want. “It’s all good”! Maybe ask your beloved what he would like you to do and then tell him what makes you most dreamy! It may be difficult for your man to understand that you really do love having him at your breasts. It is indescribable…and not infantile at all! And it often leads to other fun stuff!
Hello, I was so thrilled to find this site and to read all the wonderful stories. I had searched the web for “like minded” information with very limited results. I will be 48 in just a few days divorced and my two children are 20 & 21 yrs old. I have been in a committed relationship for a year. With in the last month he began to notice signs of beginning lactation. As shocked as I was I began to research this. Realizing what was happening and why (he has always loved suckling my breast even falling asleep that way) we decided this was something we both wanted. We now make time to “bosom” at least 4 to 5 times a day/night. I do not pump so I also depend on his input. He believes he is getting approx 4 oz per feeding. This is the most intimate, glorious experience I have ever encountered. I have never been so happy and content. Contrary to poplar belief, and even though it is extremely sensual and may lead to wonderful sexual experiences, it isn’t a fetish or perverted act. I really have longed for women with similar experiences to discuss this with. I anxiously await the day my milk flows freely for him!
Thank you so very much for your site and sharing the intimate details of your experiences so that it may ease my heart!
Loribelle,
What a great post you have made in this guestbook! I particularly loved the line, “This is the most intimate, glorious experience I have ever encountered.”
Isn’t it? Isn’t it just wonderful, and so hard to describe, and doesn’t it just make you want to share this ultimate bonding concept with others…but you can’t do so freely? Except here, and a few other spots.
Please continue to share your thoughts. They’re beautiful.
If your partner is getting 4 ounces per feeding, I’d say your “milk flows freely” already. That’s terrific.
Welcome to the ANR community. Enjoy the bonding. It makes the heart sing, it makes cold nights warm, it makes your love for each other something greater than you’d imagined.
Hi, we started the induction 3 days ago… I just noticed later the big desire while having intercourse for my husband to breastfeed. I went online and was surprised that we can do that! We started right away.
We started with Fanugreek, I do not know exactly how much should i take (can someone tell me?). For 3 days I have been wanting to be sexually active all day. We have 2 little kids, but they are at grandmas on vacation… so i am not sure if it is because of that or due to the big desire to lactate my hubby.
He agreed to it, but he is not really suckleing… I am not sure if it because of taboos, but i am about to find out, because i am going to ask. I wish he’d take over the task by himself, but I have to ask him. I use the Marmet Excercises every 2 hours around the clock for about 15-20 min. For the past two days i feel like my breasts are extra sensitive, and at times i feel like my milk wants to come in… (crazy thought, but I cant explain it any other way). We have a 3 year old boy who was breastfed for 15 months, so i do not know if that has anything to do. I AM SO EXCITED. I want that closseness with my husband… I will keep your posted on evrything… thank you for being there…
i just order a tens unit, anyone can tell me anything about it, any personal experience?
Reading all the ‘advice’ and ‘experiences’ I am getting up the courage to suggest to my husband that I attempt to RE-LACTATE. I am really excited. IT’s been years since my last child was born. I just want to know till what age it’s SAFE to attempt to relactate, given that I am healthy and willing.
Thanks.
Hi there and welcome.
I am not able to give medical advice… but if it makes you feel any better, I believe that we have a husband (that’s written us) of a 58 yr. old wife that lactates. Another woman in her sixties has written to our blog and neither have reported any problems to date. I have not heard or read of any adverse effects assuming one is in good health.
I am 50 years old…it almost seems as though many couples begin this journey when their children are out of the house and new opportunities await in every area of their sexuality.
If you are truly concerned, ask your healthcare professional (if you are comfortable) or a midwife or lactation consultant. There is a lot of info. on the internet as well.
Best to you as you explore bosoming with your one true love!
As Always and Forever, I am,
Luvmyhub