This one is for the Men.

Here is a shout out to Joy at Intelligent Love 411 for Men.

My DH, (dear husband,) like a lot of men, is logic and science based in his thinking. If you men are interested in the chemistry of love you might be interested in 411 for Men.  Joy Nordenstrom of at Intelligent Love explores the “chemistry, psychology and practical wisdom of passionate and thriving relationships.”

You can find her Joy of Romance blog and her Intelligent Love Vodcasts links in my links section on the right.

You can sign up to receive an Intelligent Love Bite or a Love Coach Morsel from Joy Nordenstrom in your e-mail. You will find links for those in her Blog.

She explains the science of aphrodisiacs. Be sure to check out her 3 part Pod Casts series with  Massage. I also found her Pod Cast on Oxytocin interesting. (I didn’t see any rules against women.   ) 

Joy, “Nibbling on her nipples has an extra benefit of releasing more oxytocin in your partner. Watch and learn why increasing your and your partner’s levels of oxytocin is a good thing for sustaining passionate and thriving relationships.” 

NOTE: I have never had personal correspondence with Joy.  I am not implying that she even knows about ANR, let alone  supports it.  I am including her here because she has a ministry to men in the realm of intimacy that appeals to some of their science-logic mind sets.

Links: http://blog.joyofromance.com/

Massage is a great intimacy builder. Both the giver and the receiver release oxytocin, (the bonding hormone,) into their blood steam. It can be sexually stimulating or relaxing. It is always sensual for me either way. You will probably see me mention it frequently, because I think it is… in one word… powerful.

I have wanted to learn how to massage the right way. I spent my afternoon today watching massage videos I down loaded from the Internet.   I was impressed for the price of  $31.00 (including the tax.) I ordered the DVD with the Internet access. So now it is on my PC, but I will be getting the DVD in the mail.

The only down part was the music. It is the relaxing kind great for massage, but I almost fell asleep watching. No kidding. I do not think I could make it through a whole routine at one time with that kind of music, even if I was the one giving the massage. Though I could never fall asleep while giving the glute routine to him. He has such an awesome gluteus maxi-mus.  

The videos are short, they do just one leg etc… However, the over all routine will be long. There are also pages to print things out, which I will refer to if I forget where I am. I cannot wait to try this out. 

I will have to let you know how he likes it. I am not sure we will get a chance this weekend. If not, we have our anniversary trip next weekend.

Let me see how it goes. See if he likes it. If this turns out well, then I will add a link at the bottom of this post. (I am not selling anything and have no affiliation.)

In the meantime, set the music and lighting and  warm some oil. Get your lover naked, (we shower together first.) Rub and knead away, then rub some more. Be careful not to apply pressure on the spine, the base of the throat, under the kneecaps and other fragile areas.  Don’t forget to massage the head and feet… or blow out the candles.