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Sunday, January 10th, 2010

The Milkmaid

As I continue my search for an Avatar, this work of art by Vermeer captured my eye.

There is something so beautiful about the woman in this painting. I wonder what she ponders as she pours the milk she labored for. The table displays a bounty of food; the colors and textures of the painting arouse a very romantic feeling within me…it pleases my eye.

This woman is robust and feminine all at the same time; she wears the appropriate attire for her position, time period and season.

Who is she? Is she a young girl of 16? A mother? daughter? sister? If she is married, does she nurse her husband? I never would have thought that in my previous life. But now I can’t help but wonder.

What do you picture in your mind’s eye when you think of a milkmaid?

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Friday, December 4th, 2009

Becomimg a Milkmaid

You asked, “How did I become a milkmaid”?

The answer is quite simple. One day while my husband and I were…Uh hum…involved in some very private time, he began to suckle my breasts. Let’s just say that the above described activity “gets me in the mood” very quickly. This time in particular, Hubby lingered there a little longer than usual. He seemed to be in a very dreamy state…we both just soaked up the moment while I cradled his head in my arms; he nearly dozed off suckling. He loving looked up at me and whispered, “I wish that I could drink your milk”. I excitedly asked, “Are you serious”? Hubby replied, “Of course, silly; why not”? For the next several minutes I explained that his idea could become our reality. Having been a LLL leader (eons ago), I assisted many new moms including one woman who would eventually adopt and desired to breastfeed. Certainly this was something that we could do.

My DH was anxious to start right away…our ANR was born. Mind you, neither one of us had ever heard of an ANR or ABF. We simply discovered this new form of intimacy and bonding all on our own. It just happened naturally. We both had a good idea of how often we would need to BF in order to bring milk in and we were committed. Owning our own business allowed us to make time to prioritize our new found joy if you know what I mean! At that time, we nursed every 4 or 5 hours around the clock. At two weeks, we had serious drops and within the 4th week Hubby was getting gulps. Needless to say, we were ecstatic!

By 8 weeks, we had dropped the “wee hour of the morning” feeding…I guess we both finally ran out of gas. Three to four sessions became the norm for a week or so. What happened next is a cautionary tale…so learn from it. I became obsessed with keeping the schedule fearing that my milk would dry up; the schedule became the focus rather than the relationship. Our ANR was taking up a lot of our time and our business needed attention. For about 5 or 6 days there was no nursing. My husband and I were stressed out, confused and unsure of the next step. Neither Hubby or I had any intention of giving up our ANR, but we had to re-group…find some balance in all of this.

Communication is key!
I learned a lot from my husband those days that we didn’t nurse. We worked hard together and had some very meaningful talks; he is my BEST FRIEND. You know, we all have expectations in our marriages regarding sex, nursing…fill in the blank. The micromanagement of an ANR (or anything for that matter) can leave couples disillusioned and/or disappointed. Talking about our desires, expectations and the reality of our daily life helped me to put things in proper perspective.

So, how does this story end? Oh, we are just getting started! You’ll have to wait and read my next post! Gottcha! I would never be that cruel. LOL.
Bosom Love has never been better. We have freed ourselves from a strict “schedule” letting things happen naturally. Whether wet or dry nursing, we love the intimacy and closeness that it provides. It has truly become a part of us… a very special part of a glorious relationship that I have with my beloved husband.

I pray our story has encouraged you. If opinions differ between you and your mate regarding ANR talk with them. You don’t have to limit yourselves or tailor your ANR after someone else. There really is no right or wrong way! Share your desires and then listen to them…really listen and be willing to compromise. Bosom love is an incredible blessing and journey…one I hope all of our readers may one day enjoy!

Blessings to all,

Luvmyhub

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Monday, November 23rd, 2009

Introducing… Lubmyhub! A new Women-essence author

I am so excited to be announcing a new author here at Women-essence. If you have been keeping up with recent comments, you will have already been introduced to Luvmyhub. I have asked her to come aboard as an author instead of a commenter and she has said yes!

It is not often that a person meets someone that they feel such a common bond with, that they can ask her to move in to their blog home and say, “Make yourself at home here.” I am blessed to be able to do just that.

Luvmyhub will be contributing here, and possibly be branching off to her own blog in the future. I will let her tell you more about that when she is ready. I hope you are as excited as I am by another blogger in the world of bosoming ANR. Please give her a warm welcome.

(I will not be relinquishing my own part, which has been lacking as of late. I hope to be able to contribute more regularly now that winter has returned. )

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Saturday, May 9th, 2009

Journal; six months

What can I say? Not much has changed since my last entry. My milk supply is the same, even though I have been cutting calories.

The amount time we put into bosoming is no more and no less than it has been. I has not turned into any kind of a fetish. The newness has wore off, in that I don’t think about it as much, and it is fitting in our lives comfortably. The newness may be gone, but is even more special than before. The erotica is still there and our sex life is still running hot. My mate is getting a little more expressive in his enjoyment of our bosoming, which includes a slight aggressiveness. I love it.

We had a very special date night a week ago. We went to dinner, saw a movie, and rented a cheap room. We were both very wound up to start with, but later we talked a lot.

They say not to talk about sex in the bedroom; to do it somewhere neutral. I think that is important if you have something negative to say, but things have been going so well between us, that there wasn’t anything negative.

I got to express some of the “new to me” ideas that had been tumbling in my head regarding sex. I got to ask him a lot of questions too. Sometimes as couples we leave hints and hope our mate understands. I had been seeing and hearing hints, but I wasn’t really sure what he was trying to say. This was one of those times where we felt so comfortable and so connected that we could tell each other anything, not leaving it to hints. It was a time of more discovery between us. The intimacy was awesome. It had been since our anniversary in February that we last had a talk that was so revealing and sharing. It was really special. Our connection definitely deepened. This went on for awhile, things would get hot, then we would take a break and snuggle and talk, then being rested we would be at each other again, lol. I think it was around 4am before we collapsed the final time and said good night. In the morning we showered and made love again before leaving for home.

Whenever we have one of these special times, the days that follow are richer than before. That is how it is. After 25 years of marriage you would think that there was nothing new to learn about each other, but people change; so there is always something new to learn. Our relationship has matured, and contrary to what some people expect, that is a good thing. We are comfortable with who we are and with each other. Comfortable does not mean bored or complacent. Just the opposite; it means we feel free to be adventurous and try new things. We know that we have unconditional love and no embarrassment , mistake, or surprise is going to change that. Even if an idea is rejected, the person will not be. We know what makes each other tick, and we know what buttons to push to please each other. We are still finding new buttons, but making use of the many we have learned too.

There was a time, 14 years ago, when I could have told you we were staying together for the kids. We loved each other, but we were struggling with every kind of intimacy, and resentment was king. Things improved with counseling, date nights, new communication, and forgiveness. I started thinking that maybe once the children are grown we might still have a chance. Now, so much good has developed between us in the last 6 months, that I look forward to our time alone together when the nest is empty. (Not that I am in any hurry for my children to grow up and leave.)

I am very happy, and never even imagined being so happy. My life is not a fairy tale, it has it’s challenges, but it is rich; very rich.

PS. I have prayed a lot for my marriage over the years, and I am blessed to see those prayers answered.

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Friday, May 1st, 2009

How can I get my wife interested in ANR?

Hi Hismilkmaid,

Congratulations on your blog. I found it a very interesting and nice place which I enjoy visiting. I especially found inspiring the way you show the concept of ANR as a tender bond of love between two bodies and souls. I wish all the best for you, your husband, and your family.

I have happily married for 22 years. We have four children.

I would like to ask you a question: How can I get my wife interested in ANR? I think it has to be wonderful when it’s already working, but… How can I introduce the idea to her? For what I have read in your blog, it takes a lot of time and effort to induce lactation. My dear wife and me work outside home and we have 4 kids to look after. That takes most of our energy… Most days, we fall into bed so exhausted, that we only want to sleep. I think she will see an ANR like extra work…

Okay, I do not expect any miracle answer from you, but maybe another point of view could help.

Thanks again for your blog and also for your kind attention. With best regards,

Curtis (details changed to protect identity)

Updated with my reply:

Hello,

Thank you for making contact. It is nice to hear from people on the outside looking into my world.

Introducing ANR to a lady who is already tired is a tough one. I think that tiredness is why when I bosomed my husband while I was nursing my babies… I just didn’t feel the same as I do now. I did it to make him happy, but I had no personal desire in it beyond that.

I would suggest that you just introduce some short quick suckling spurts in your foreplay and see if she likes how it feels. If she doesn’t mind, you can slowly initiate longer times. I personally wouldn’t bring up the subject of ANR for a while. Just introduce the sensations of erotic or relaxing suckling. Maybe after a while tell her you read… you ARE reading it here, lol…that after 20 to 30 minutes of strong adult suckling, (so much different than a little baby,) many women get not only aroused, but also blissful, and most importantly, that it creates an emotional connection between the lovers. Ask her if she is willing to try that. If she is, then when you are through, tell her how much YOU enjoyed it. Tell her how close to her you feel. Keep in mind the relationship value of ANR, and leave out the milk idea at first.

If you can get her hooked on the idea of the relationship value of suckling, then maybe later you can say something like, ”I think it would be so awesome if there was actually milk involved.” Milk should just be seen as a bonus to the relationship value of ANR. Your goal should be getting close and connecting with her. She needs to see that this is about the two of you and your relationship, not the milk.

I personally would not appreciate it if my husband ever asked me to take drugs or spend hours a week pumping, (especially not at my work place,) so he could have milk. I would not see that as a loving request. It is different if the woman volunteers to do these things, but it is a lot for you to ask of her.

My husband was willing to do the work to get my milk started, and that included waking up at 2am to suckle. Now we sleep through the night, but he is very considerate of making time for the other sessions. It is him who approaches me. I never have to remind him. He enjoys the taste of milk, finds the whole thing erotic, and sees it as a gift of my love. His patience and dedication makes me want the bonus of milk in our suckling relationship.

(CAUTION: Actually, the milk is such a tiny bonus for the husband, compared to how the emotional “connection” increases her desire for physical intimacy with her spouse. It has also been my experience, and many other women have told me, that suckling makes her orgasms easier and they are intense if suckling is followed or accompanied by stimulation below. Between the emotional connection and the easier and better orgasms… some men end up with nymphos for wives.)

I suggest you start out slow and see how it goes. Since her time and energy is at such a great demand, short sessions will be easier to keep up with and less tiring. When the day comes for you to bring up the desire for a consistent suckling relationship, I suggest that you reaffirm her that you are not asking her to mother you and treat you like a baby. Some women worry that their husbands are requesting them to take on a mothering role, and they are put off by that. Each milkmaid has her own feelings to discover in the relationship. Adding to this, I think you should not ask for a commitment, but instead ask that she “try” it for two months, perhaps starting with bedtime, then if that goes well, adding mornings, and eventually for relaxing and connecting a few minutes after work, and a little more on weekends.

Some ladies find the idea of actually lactating for their husband strange or burdensome. Yet, I have read a few stories where the spouse ended up bring in the idea of milk themselves.

I hope sharing these thoughts helped. I may have a post started, lol.

I am asking for your permission to use your letter. May I? Many men have asked me this question, but you have wrote it out with so much consideration for your wife, that it has blessed me.

Loving it,
His Milkmaid

(edited and additional points added.)

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